Pioneer-DilliBilli-April.8th.2012-"This Sach is too much to handle"

"THIS SACH IS TOO MUCH TO HANDLE"

The reality show on Life Ok is an eye-opener for many. The fact that women continue to be abused by family members and relatives till this day and age is horrifying.

I  was surfing the television channels last week when I happen to come across a show called Sach Ka Saamna. Since I had read something about the show in the newspaper, I decided to watch it. One of the contestants on that day — the lady on the hot seat was called Hemlata. I don’t know the exact parametres and rules of the show, but one thing I understood — the person on the hot seat has to answer questions and the lie-detector will decide whether the answer is correct or not. The people who take part in this reality show must be truly amazing people. I don’t know whether the show is for real or scripted but it is an eye-opener for many.

Coming back to the show. The questions got tougher and the lady was asked whether she was abused by her father when she was a teenager. She said ‘yes’. Then she was asked if she had told her mother, the lady once again said ‘yes’. The lady also said that the abuse took place when the mother was not at home and when she came back she was told about the incident. But the mother asked her to forget the whole think and never talk about it. The lady was then asked if her brother had ever forced her to have sex with him. The brother immediately got up and pressed the orange light. So obviously it was true.

The programme intrigued me so the next day also I tuned into the channel. A young lady was asked whether she was ever raped. She said that an associate of hers had promised to help in her business. He called her at a hotel to meet some people who could help her, instead he raped her. Other questions that the host asked the people who came on the hot seat were whether they had ever cheated, abused and had extra-martial affair. The questions were extremely personal and that too in front of family members.

I am not criticising the content of the show. What is horrifying is that even in this day and age, women continue to be abused, molested and raped by family members and business associates. That incest exists in our society is a known fact. When reported, the elders hush up the matter to maintain cordial relations.

But what about the victim? The incident leaves the person scarred for life. It is extremely sad that we live in a society where the women are not respected. I am not talking about legal rights here, it is about family rights. From the day a girl is born, she is treated inferior to the boy. He is fed better and clothed better. The  girl is brought up with the sanskaar that she is supposed to suffer in silence come what may. If a girl is abused or raped, she brought it on herself.

One wonders what makes these people come to the show? Why would they want to reveal their darkest moment? Is it to clear their consciousness? Is it the money or is it because they want their moment of publicity and finally get even with their abusers?

For me it was like watching a horror show where one can win money but completely destroy the reputation of the near and dear ones, break their hearts and ruin the future of many family members. Imagine what is does to a family when a spouse declares on a television show that he have had extra-martial affair, cheated his colleague and even raped a woman. It requires immense mental strength by all involved to be able to live with the fact that the truth is out now.

What is the message that the show wants to send across? The participants have children, family and colleagues who watch the show. What future will they have now that the truth is out? I wonder how many relationships break due to these revelations. One feels really sorry for these people that their past mistakes resurface to haunt their present and future.